Concept Awesome

It’s so weird trying to explain people who don’t know What I Do on the Internet that, actually, there are a weirdly large number of people who actually care about what I have to say, and, actually, I’ve had things I’ve written go viral (or as viral as things can go in ace communities).  It mostly ends in me gesticulating wildly and saying, “It’s weird.  It’s really weird,” over and over.

Jo wrote a really good post, and you should all go read it.

Omg I'm gray-romantic and I don't identify too much with aros nor romantic, but sometimes i feel more aro than romantic or viceversa, it depends on the day lol For me, gray-romantic is a useful concept, i´m not demi coz i've had crush on girls who i just met like love at first sight but aros seem foreign to that concept so i can't discuss with them BUT my expectations of relationships are so different from romantics that i can't discuss with them either lol i'm ok if i'm forever single too

Hey, anon!  Your experiences fit in with the experiences of a lot of other greyros I know (including me).  The really nice think about the aromantic spectrum/grey-romantic label is that you don’t have to pick a side!  We can stand in the middle and have a quiet greyro party.

*throws greyro confetti*

I just wanted to tell you how thankful i am for all the survivor asexual posts! i get so sad and angry everytime there is slideshow of asexual101 and it says "aces haven't experienced abuse!" i die a little inside, i feel fake, and i began to question my sexuality all over again. It's so painful that i avoid the asexuality tag as much as i can. I'm not brave enough to say i'm a survivor of childhood abuse but i feel like a liar if i denied it i don't know what to do i'm so ashamed...

Hey, anon.  Thanks so much for your note, and I’m really glad that you’ve found the stuff I’ve written helpful.  I just wanted to remind that you are not fake.  You are so brave to even write this message.  What you feel is legitimate, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, okay?

If you send me a message off anon, I can get you in contact with some other aces who have experienced CSA, who might be able to offer more support than I can.

I realized I forgot to link to Siggy’s really good piece on different types of activism last week.  But I’m doing it now!

I just want to say, no matter what the haters tell you, hearing your experience has given me courage and hope. When I saw that post about aces not just being like everyone else without the sexual attraction, I instantly shared it with all of my friends. It's a poem I want to write, I told them. I've bee struggling as a poet to articulate what it means to be ace, and you inspire me. Please never, never feel like your words are useless and or unneeded. -Labbess

Aww, thanks, anon, that’s super sweet of you.

I think I’m probably going to take a short break from blogging, ‘cause the combination of the semester ramping up and the recent spate of internet drama is kind of stressing me out.  I’ll be back to be unnervingly verbose in a bit, though.



I read one of your recent blog entries and noticed that some lines of text have a space at the beginning that looks out of place. I traced this to your using two spaces after a period, and critically, the nbsp being used for the second space (select the text and right click->View Source in Firefox to see this). To fix this, something in your publishing chain needs to be tweaked to put the nbsp first, so for example "Bla.[space][space]Bla." should become "Bla.[nbsp][space]Bla.".

Oh, weird, I don’t know how that happened.  (Maybe when I copied over some text from wordpress?)  Do you happen to remember which post it was?