It’s so weird trying to explain people who don’t know What I Do on the Internet that, actually, there are a weirdly large number of people who actually care about what I have to say, and, actually, I’ve had things I’ve written go viral (or as viral as things can go in ace communities). It mostly ends in me gesticulating wildly and saying, “It’s weird. It’s really weird,” over and over.
This really resonated with me as well – so much that I had to force myself away from the comments to come and write my own post dedicated to this topic. Because I feel the same way as Queenie does: my asexuality is an inherent part of my identity, something that can’t just be detached. If I can furnish you with an analogy, asexuality is like a cog in a machine: everything turns with it, and although there are also many other cogs, they all depend on each other to keep turning. The asexuality cog can’t turn on its own, and without it, nothing else turns either.
Jo wrote a really good post, and you should all go read it.
Hey, anon! Your experiences fit in with the experiences of a lot of other greyros I know (including me). The really nice think about the aromantic spectrum/grey-romantic label is that you don’t have to pick a side! We can stand in the middle and have a quiet greyro party.
*throws greyro confetti*
Hey, anon. Thanks so much for your note, and I’m really glad that you’ve found the stuff I’ve written helpful. I just wanted to remind that you are not fake. You are so brave to even write this message. What you feel is legitimate, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, okay?
If you send me a message off anon, I can get you in contact with some other aces who have experienced CSA, who might be able to offer more support than I can.
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If you feel uncomfortable doing asexual activism, always remember that activism is laudable but not obligatory. But also remember that activism is more than just educating mainstream audiences. There are plenty of alternate forms of activism. And I don’t mean that in the “everyone can be special and feel good about themselves” sort of way; these alternative forms of activism really do us some good. Let’s examine some of these alternate forms of activism:
I realized I forgot to link to Siggy’s really good piece on different types of activism last week. But I’m doing it now!
Aww, thanks, anon, that’s super sweet of you.
I think I’m probably going to take a short break from blogging, ‘cause the combination of the semester ramping up and the recent spate of internet drama is kind of stressing me out. I’ll be back to be unnervingly verbose in a bit, though.
Oh, weird, I don’t know how that happened. (Maybe when I copied over some text from wordpress?) Do you happen to remember which post it was?